Angela Jolie and Brad Pitt are thinking of got married after years of living together. Why? With half a dozen kids and six years of living in - better late than never, or then not so?
Quite a feat looking at the long list of live in relationships ending in break ups where the two people who were once inseparable go their own (bitter) ways. And this brings me to the entire premise of live in relationships, should one? Or then should one tie the knot and go for the conjugal bond?
There is no such thing really as ‘trial marriage’. You can live together, have sex, put your dirty clothes in the same washing machine and share the same room but that does not a marriage make. It is not even a preparation for marriage.
It is in my opinion a convenience of sorts without the attendant responsibilities. The live in couple seldom feel secure in the relationship and the desire to create palatable solutions to work toward a future together is absent.
The issues and their magnanimity pass and you find you could have worked it out -but you've moved on in the heat of those angry weeks. In a marriage it would have entailed sorting it out. You would have cooled down, relatives and friends might have counselled you and you'd have come back equipped with more sense and realization. In a live in relationship, even family tend to take your relationship lightly, and often do not work at helping you through it.
Most single people know that on the surface marriage looks like something that will give us happiness, save us from loneliness, is something to strive to have some day, and something that will be a major mile-marker in our lives but that may not always be the case, they argue!
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